{"id":318439,"date":"2025-09-25T09:53:38","date_gmt":"2025-09-25T13:53:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.familylife.com\/?p=318439"},"modified":"2026-03-16T16:10:42","modified_gmt":"2026-03-16T20:10:42","slug":"3-things-to-do-when-struggling-to-forgive-your-spouse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.familylife.com\/articles\/topics\/marriage\/staying-married\/forgiveness\/3-things-to-do-when-struggling-to-forgive-your-spouse\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Things To Do When Struggling To Forgive Your Spouse"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cWill you forgive me?\u201d A phrase that is included at the end of almost all apologies in my marriage. Some close friends of ours modeled it, imparting their wisdom to us (for the health of our marriage). But what do you do when you\u2019re struggling to forgive your spouse?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First, it may be helpful to give a refresher on what the Bible says about forgiveness. Forgiveness is the dismissal of a sin committed. It is a decision not to keep score \u2026 choosing not to save this wrongdoing in your back pocket as a checkmate for the next argument. It\u2019s the admission that no one in this world is perfect aside from Jesus Christ, but in knowing, trusting, and following Him, we have forgiveness for our shortcomings when we bring them before Him (Colossians 1:13-14<\/a>).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Second, forgiveness between humans demonstrates the repeated forgiveness we have received. The act of forgiving another can bring connection, restoration, and oneness, just as God intended (Ephesians 4:32<\/a>). As you grow together as a couple, you have an opportunity to continually grow connection and oneness with our Father, through His Son, Jesus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n